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I was working on another project today when it came to me: I need to tell people why spiritual integration is so important right now. And then another thought came, “Have I ever written about it?” Hmmm…Probably not.
In all the years I’ve been coaching people to success, nothing has become more important to me than effective integration. It’s how people make changes that last. And for me, helping people make lasting change is my passion, especially when it comes to spiritual growth. I have a knack for getting people where they want to go quickly. It’s something I learned I was naturally good at and its how I made big changes in my own life. Changes I make get integrated so well, in fact, that people who knew me before the change find themselves talking to an old version of me that no longer exists. And that is awkward.
Integration is the secret sauce to making real changes, hence the name of my website realliferealchanges. While clients very much feel the effects of the work they do with me during the session, it’s really important the work “sticks”, i.e. works for them in daily life.
So if you are interested in what makes a change “integrated,” you are in the right place. Here we go! Let’s start with some definitions. Using dictionary.com, we have
Integration to mean “
Spiritual to mean “
Okay with our definitions in place, we are looking to accomplish a distinct harmony between daily life and spiritual activities within ourselves and in our lives with spiritual integration.
Who wants spiritual integration? For many clients, they start this work because they want:
- less discord in their daily life
- to make practical use of what they’ve learned in spiritually themed workshops
- feel more peace and contentment with who they (really) are
- balance spiritual growth within non-spiritual relationships
- to know if a new belief is right for them
- limit the amount of time exploring a particular topic
What are these clients studying? Most of them are exploring timeless themes of the soul, like reincarnation and energy. Others are strengthening their religion with new ideas about compassion and love. Still others have found themselves pondering God after being agnostic or atheist (this one usually happens after near death or death experiences).
So how do we accomplish spiritual integration? Well, I don’t have enough space here to go through a full session (mainly because each person’s journey is so different), but here is the basic framework:
- First, identify at which neurological level the person knows the information. For example, do they feel they have a new identity or are they exploring a new behavior?
- Then discuss the pain point, i.e. where is the client having most of their issues? Is it mostly inside or are they feeling external pressures?
- The next step is to identify the goal. What does the person want when their spirituality is integrated?
- With the goal clarified and positioned, it is now time to determine where in life the client needs to be supported. For me, this helps me determine the techniques we’ll use to achieve the goal in the shortest amount of time.
- And finally, we do the work (this includes homework in addition to our sessions).
And there you have the makings of integrating spiritual beliefs, rituals, etc. in daily life. Ta-da!